The beginning of Henry’s story

My brother Henry would be 72 years old today, September 2, 2019. I have wanted to write about him ever since he died, back in April 2018, but have had trouble getting started. I decided to start his story today. I will add to it as I am able.

Henry’s story started on September 2, 1947, in Akron, Ohio, when he was born. But this story starts a few days after May 18, 1950, because that’s the earliest date Henry could remember, and it’s when the story teller’s story started. Henry was not sure that the ride to the hospital was a real memory. He thought he might have manufactured it after having been told about it many times. But the facts are right.

Henry and our father came to McCall Hospital a few days after I was born to pick up me and our mother and take us home.

Me, as a baby, and Henry, as a very young little boy

Home was 19B Redmond Road, the third house on the left, at the intersection with Leland Avenue. Our house was one of a long line of almost identical houses on both sides of the road. They were at the edge of Summerville Park, a little four-block-square neighborhood bounded by the Berry College campus on the north, Martha Berry Boulevard on the east, and Berry property on the west. There was a swampy low area around a creek on the south, and just beyond it a dirt road that passed a brick yard with several domed kilns.

Our back yard, me breaking with my father’s hat

Our row of houses was built as temporary housing for Battey Hospital, which was at the end of the long straight section of Redmond Road where we lived. Battey had a nice, college-like campus with multiple buildings and a little residential area. It was separated from Summerville Park by a forest of tall loblolly pines. Battery was built during World War II as a hospital for injured military. It became a tuberculosis sanitarium around 1946, and that’s what it was when we lived on Redmond Road.

When were ever that small?

The rest of the houses in Summerville Park were a mix of (probably) late 30’s homes, small but mostly neat. Our house was utilitarian. Each side of the duplex was a mirror image of the other. I guess each side was about 30 feet square. There was a small eat-in kitchen with a gardenia right outside the window, a living room, two bedrooms and a bathroom. In the center, with a door from each room, there was a hall with a floor furnace. All of our shoes showed a singed grid pattern on the soles from standing on the floor furnace in the winter.

Our father built an enclosed back porch where our washer and dryer and our freezer were. He built the room by himself.

Henry follows orders, I do not. I want a close-up.

Henry and I shared a bedroom, which was probably the interior room. We had twin beds. Our father, who liked model trains, built a folding train table. It folded up between sets of shelves against the wall, and could be lowered down between our beds. We could fold it down and have two ovals of track, one in S-scale for our American Flyer train, and one in HO scale, for our father’s train. Henry used parts of the shelving units when he built a Wilson cloud chamber when he was a teenager. A cloud chamber is a device used in early particle physics. It is typical that Henry would build something like that.

Henry explains things to a neighborhood boy.

Our parents had the corner bedroom. The little living room had a sofa and an overstuffed chair. Our father built a cabinet for a little black-and-white TV, a radio, and a turntable.

Christmas morning in the old duplex.

There was no air conditioning, of course. We eventually bought a window unit for the living room. When our father’s job changed at the Post Office, he had to work nights and sleep during the day. They bought a little window unit for their bedroom, mainly to provide white noise to drown out the noises the rest of us made.

No smile here.

At some point in the late 1950’s we took over the other side of the duplex. Our father reinforced the ceiling in the attic and tore down the wall separating the two living rooms. Henry’s bedroom moved to the far corner, and mine moved to what had been the interior bedroom of the other part of the duplex. What had been our bedroom became a den, where the TV was placed. We had an antenna on a pole right outside the window, so we could twist the pole to adjust the antenna for better reception. We could get the three networks on Atlanta stations and the same three networks from Chattanooga stations.

A little smile here.

In the summers we played flies-and-skinners, a baseball game with a hitter and a bunch of kids trying to catch the balls on the ground (skinners) or in the air. We played kickback in Leland Avenue, a football kicking game. We played kick the can. We believed that we had the right of free passage across all of our neighbors’ yards. We didn’t know how they felt about that, and we didn’t care. We crossed two other yards to reach “the woods”, a pine thicket between the last house between us and Martha Berry Boulevard.

“The woods” was divided into the familiar section closest to civilization (our house), and a less well explored section closer to the highway. The familiar area was where we built our forts. Several trails led into the wilderness, but we seldom went there.

Mother and children

The woods also bordered the property of an old, abandoned mansion. On the other side of the mansion were the Glenwood Apartments. Sometimes when we felt especially wicked we would sneak up to the corner apartment, where all the electrical switch boxes were mounted. We would throw the switches to turn off power in some, possibly all the apartments in that block, and then run back home.

Father and children. Caps are so cool.

There was, and still is, a city park on the diagonally-opposite corner of Summerville Park. The city provided games and athletic equipment, plus a teenaged supervisor, for the neighborhood kids. We rode our bikes to the park most days. The hills were much higher and steeper in those days than when I drive over them today.

In 1953 Henry started elementary school at Fourth Ward School, two houses down from our father’s old home and a mile from ours. That was when Henry started his new life away from home, while I was still there, just three years old, still a baby. Almost all the memories of our lives are from after that time. Most of the memories are episodic, and they usually center on me, since at that age, all kids are selfish little barbarians. 

One of Henry’s school photos. He rarely smiled.

It was only in going back to those early days and trying to remember how we all lived that I realized how little interaction there was between two boys separated by almost three years in age. One of my earliest memories of those days is me chasing on foot after Henry, who was riding his new little bicycle down the street. For many years that was the kind of feeling I had about our relationship; Henry was forging on with a three-year head start, and I was struggling along behind him, handicapped by my own age.

I have no shovel, but I must try to hold it over my shoulders. Because Henry.

The Paris Gang

Ever since my Uncle Tommy died not long ago, Leah and I have been meeting Aunt Micki for lunch almost every Wednesday. A couple of cousins also come to our lunches. We have not had this much interaction with my relatives in a long time, and both of us enjoy it.

On Friday, we met Micki at a chicken place. She brought along one of her long-time tennis partners. It turns out her long-time tennis partner is my cousin. Her grandfather was my father’s grandfather, and her mother was my father’s aunt. She brought along family photos of her grandfather and his eight sons, and her grandfather and grandmother with their four daughters. One of the sons was Grady V. Paris Sr, my father’s father.

The bearded fellow in the front row is her grandfather, and all the rest are her uncles. Leah and I think my grandfather, Grady Sr, was the second from the right in the rear. Here is a photo that I think is my grandfather with his dog.

Here is the photo of my great-grandfather with his wife and their four daughters.

The poor, little lady sitting next to my great-grandfather was the mother of those eight boys and four girls. It’s no wonder she looks played out. The sister with her hand on her mother’s shoulder was my newly-found cousin’s mother.

I have met only one of the people in the picture of the men, and I do not know which one it was. He was called Ab. Apparently he was a riverboat gambler at one time. Today there is no way to verify that story, since anyone who could know of it is long dead.

The men are not named on the photograph. My cousin said hers is a just a copy that she got from her brother (now in his 90’s). She hopes her brother’s possibly original photo has names on the back. If so, we can identify my grandfather and Great Uncle Ab for sure.

It seems that the Paris family is pretty big. It also seems that I am descended from a dog lover. No surprise there.

102

One hundred and two years ago today, August 2, 2019, my father was born in Cave Spring, Ga. He died early in March 2000. It’s hard for me to believe that he was born 102 years ago, and that he has been gone for 19 years. I’m sure it would make him sad to know that most of his family is gone now, from his parents to his brother and sisters, to his wife and his older son. But that’s the way it goes. We are here for a while, and then we’re gone. Some of the people who were close to us remember, but eventually everyone who knew us will be gone as well, and then we won’t exist even in memories.

At least for now, there are a few people who remember him, even aside from me. He has two  grandsons, who will probably think more about him as they get older. He has nephews and nieces who remember him. And I remember him.

This was my father’s high school picture. In those days high school went only through the 11th grade.

This was him ten years or so later. This was early in his Army times, before he was assigned to the infantry. He still wore his crossed cannons of the artillery.

And this was him about sixty years after he was born, when he and my mother visited me at Lake Tahoe.

My little yellow Fiat is behind us. That’s Ivy, my dalmation. They stopped for a while at Tahoe and then went down to Yosemite. I followed on my motorcycle. We camped in their Airstream trailer up above the Yosemite Valley in a campground that had been officially closed for the winter but was still open for people to camp without any amenities. And this was my father and me when we went up to an overlook.

I miss those days.

Finding hints of my roots

About a year and a half ago my brother Henry did an Ancestry.com DNA analysis. As a matter of curiosity I decided to have my own DNA checked, but with another service, 23andMe.com. The results were very similar, but different enough that I wish I could talk to Henry about it.

 It was no surprise at all that my brother’s results showed his DNA to be 98% European, with results going back thousands of years. It was also not a great surprise that his results showed about 2% African DNA going back thousands of years. After all, if you go back far enough, everyone originated in Africa. Where my DNA test differed from my brothers was in how old that African DNA is.

Henry’s results were about 38% western Europe, which includes areas from France to Germany, and about 33% from Ireland, Wales, England, Scotland and France. There was some DNA that was typical of regions in Scandinavia, and possibly eastern Europe. A small fraction was typical of the Iberian Peninsula and northern Africa.

My results showed my ancestry to be 98% European, just as Henry’s. There was no identification of DNA from Scandinavia or the Iberian Peninsula. I did show about a half a percent of Ashkenazi Jewish, which Henry’s results did not show. My results showed 1.3% Sub-Saharan African, that is, south of areas like Egypt and Algeria.

I wondered exactly what that meant, so I searched for the significance of that small percentage. I found a Web site, theroot.com, in which someone asked almost exactly the same question. The answer was given by Henry Louis Gates Jr, and some others. If you have not seen Gates’ PBS show Finding Your Roots, I strongly recommend it. In that show, Gates helps various people, usually famous people, trace their roots, in some cases quite far back. Most African-Americans have white ancestors. Occasionally white Americans find that they have African ancestors.

In the case of the question submitted to Gates, the DNA results also came from 23andMe.

In Gates’ answer, he says, “Those who identify as primarily white can have African ancestry. 23andMe published a study (pdf) based on its own dataset that concluded that approximately 3 to 4 percent of their customers who identified as being of primarily European descent had at least one ancestor in the last 10 generations who could be traced back to Africa.” So I am in a fairly small subset of “white” people who have taken the 23andMe test.

He also says, “the autosomal test that (the questioner) took from 23andMe generally shows more recent ancestry, quite reliably over the last 100 to 200 years—in (the questioner’s) case, since the time of slavery, when this “admixing” most likely occurred.” 

Note: Gates says 23andMe’s autosomal testing shows results from the last few hundred years. My brother’s results indicated DNA ancestry from thousands of years ago. Gates goes on to tell the questioner that “so, you see, it is indeed possible that you have recent African-American ancestors.”

Since my 23andMe results are similar to the questioner, I have to assume that Gates’ comments to him also apply to me. That means it’s entirely possible that I have African ancestors from the recent past (a few hundred years or so). 23andMe indicates that my African ancestry dates from the 1700’s, or possibly earlier. It also shows ancestry from West Africa as well as Congolese and southern East Africa. That means African slaves in America, and probably more than one African ancestor. And that also means that there are probably some African Americans living in Georgia or Detroit or Chicago or some other place in the US that are my relatives.

To look at, I am about as white as a person can be, unless I have spent too much time in the sun, in which case I am about as red as a white person can be. I don’t tan; I freckle at best. Pasty? Yeah, that’s me. But I, someone who benefits from white privilege as much as any white American, except for rich, white Americans, have African ancestors. How convenient for me. I can claim brotherhood with my fellow African Americans without having had to put up with all the discrimination of today and the lynchings of yesterday.

It’s one thing to know intellectually that probably most African Americans have white ancestors, and that a small percentage of people who identify as white have some African ancestors. When that intellectual possibility becomes real and personal, it’s different. It’s different when you realize that some of your own ancestors were almost certainly slaves and almost certainly suffered the inhuman treatment that Americans visited on their slaves. And, since my mother’s family originated in South Georgia, I can also be pretty sure that some of my ancestors were slave owners and were dealing out that inhuman treatment.

We Americans are so screwed up.

On a somewhat lighter note, part of my results included a long list of DNA relatives. They found 1132 DNA relatives. One was my nephew Thomas. They didn’t find my other nephew, presumably because he has not done the 23andMe DNA test. There were a lot of second cousins. Some shared family names with me, like Carnes, on my father’s side. One had a family name of Bethel, the name of my mother’s half brother. Many of my DNA relatives are located in Georgia, where my mother’s family lived, and Texas, where my paternal mother’s family lived. At least one was in Britain, which might come in handy if I ever manage to visit there (Hey cousin! Can I stay with you for a week or so?)

I wish I could talk to my brother about these results. When my brother sent me a summary of his results back in July 2017, he promised to send more. Unfortunately, he was not able to do that, so I don’t know any more details about his results.

I know none of my 1132 DNA relatives except my nephew. My mother’s sister did a lot of genealogical research years ago, but my father’s family history hits a dead end at his father on one side and his grandmother on the other side.

But even without knowing names, it’s moving to see the path from there to here. When I signed up with 23andMe, their web site warned that DNA testing can yield results that can be upsetting. These results don’t upset me, and I’m sure would not have upset my brother. I wonder, though, how some of the older generations might have reacted.

101

Today, Thursday, August 2, 2018, is the 101st anniversary of my father’s birth. He died 18 years ago.

It has seemed for some time, and more so today, that my life is divided into at least two parts: before my father’s death, and after my father’s death. All the things that happened to me in the before time seem to have happened to a different person in a different world. But it all seems as real and as recent as yesterday.

When Leah and I visited Henry’s wife a few weeks ago, she brought out a metal fishing tackle box filled with memorabilia. My brother had taken it to his home when we cleaned out our parents’ house after my mother died.

A lot of stuff in the box is military. There are shoulder patches for the Army divisions he served in, Army branch insignia (artillery and infantry), rank pins (first and second lieutenant, major, lieutenant colonel — there should be captain’s bars somewhere but I didn’t see it). His dog tags are in there, as well as his service ribbons. The paper on the right is my father’s 6th grade report card for the 1928-29 session. He made pretty good grades. The paper at the top is my mother’s application for a position with the federal government on September 23, 1943. She had already been working for the War Production Board in Washington DC prior to that.

There is also a statement from McCall Hospital dated May 22, 1950. It’s the bill for my birth, a total of $72.50 for the delivery and four days in the hospital ($40 at $10 a day for board and nursing, $10 for operating room expense). My father’s Post Office insurance paid all but $20.

There are a couple of pin-on badges that my parents wore back in the late 1950’s or early 1960’s when they square danced. The badges say “Circle 8”, but I remember their square dancing group as the Western Promenaders. They danced at Rome’s old civic center, built in the 1930’s. When Leah and I drive to our current vet’s office, we pass a building with a sign for the Western Promenaders, so they seem to still be in business.

A careful examination of the photograph will reveal a Nazi lapel pin, one of my father’s war souvenirs. I wonder who wore it.

The hand-drawn and colored map of South America was done by my father sometime in his school years.

Everything is an artifact. Going through them is an exercise in archeology, digging not only into the objects themselves, but also into my own memories, and even into times before I was born.